This video introduces us to a concept that’s we’re most probably not yet familiar with, the frame of reference. Everyone has his/her own frame of reference; this is defined by the speaker in the video as “everything that you believe to be true” or false, or one’s way of looking at the world.
“To commune” is “to experience”, in this case, to experience communication.
The speaker then sheds light on a very interesting query, why is it hard to communicate with people ? The reason that the speaker provides is because people tend to carry their personal frame of reference, which makes it very difficult to strike a very smooth, hassle-free conversation with the other person. Since about 90% of what we people communicate is non-verbal, we must all learn to reverse or deal with this.
How do we put aside our frame of reference when talking to people? The speaker shows us how through the following guidelines:
1. align yourself with the other person
2. experience the other person
3. be alert to all the subtle cues
4. be prepared to repeat your thoughts or shift your train of thought, especially during the times wherein the other party can no longer follow what you’re saying.
In addition to this, he gives us two tips to help us in our daily conversations:
a. you have to do things that’s not expected, so that people can hear or see or understand you–we can do this by looking for a connection with the other person, and
b. since our pinky finger (“mercury finger”) is the one connected to our speech and communication abilities in the brain, you may hold your mercury finger for a bit, and minutes after, you’ll see the immediate shift of your frequency jiving with the other person’s frequency, thereby ensuring mutual understanding between the two parties.
Try it now! 🙂
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